Saturday, November 12, 2005


Okay, call me crazy or silly or whatever you want, but I am always looking for creative ways or different ways to say I love you to my husband. Especially when he is way from me. It seems I can never come up with the right words, or good enough words to express the way I feel. So.... I've been scouring my favorite online bookstore today for just the right "words". I've found a few and put them in my shopping cart but haven't checked out yet.

My DH thinks I'm crazy. He says he knows I love him and I say it fine. He's not the most romantic although he does try for me. I, on the other hand, am a hopeless romantic. I love the books, the movies. I love romantic pictures and of course romantic words. I have a poets heart but not the talent.

Just about every night, I lay in bed after I put the kids to bed and try to write a love letter to DH but they usually just say, "I love you so much." It sounds like a first grader! Surely I could come up with better words to say what I feel. Hey, maybe I could put a thesaurus by the bed. I doubt it would help but... you never know.

Anyway, with Christmas coming I want something super special to send him. It's so hard. I mean what do you send a soldier in the desert for Christmas? I feel like I need to express my love even more with him gone. I can't just give him a hug or kiss or any of that so ... He always says a movie is the best thing to send over there or money {;o)} but those don't exactly say "I love you!" Oh well. He thinks I'm nuts anyway (in a good way of course) so it probably won't matter too much. I guess it's the thought that counts anyway.

I guess this is kind of personal to be posting on the internet but oh well. It's what I'm thinking about today.


  1. I have the same problem with writing how I feel. When my husband was away, everytime I was at a store with a card section, I picked out 2 or 3 cards that said what I wanted to say to him. I don't know how many I accumulated but I sent a new card once a week. He really loved them.

  2. I did that a lot last time too. It really helps, especially towards the end when you seem to be all "written" out. I started buying cards for him before he left (I'm so bad!) but they have run out and so now I'm just trying to learn to express myself better on my own at least for a while anyway. Thanks for stopping by and for the encouragement. I really appreciate it. ;o)

  3. These may not be helpful for your purpose but they deserve to be enjoyed just the same. Here are two poems from America's first great literary woman, Anne Bradstreet (1612-1672).

    Some things never change:
    A Letter to Her Husband, Absent Upon Public Employment

    To My Dear and Loving Husband

    I read these for the first time my freshman year of college and I remember thinking that I hope that I feel that way about the man that I marry. And, yeah I do.

  4. Those are both beautiful but alas....DH would definitely think I was nuts if I sent them to him. hehehe Thanks for sharing!!

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  6. From having been on the otherside of your issue, maybe I can be of some help. I know it was great when I received something from my wife while deployed. Letters about everyday activities and pics of the family are priceless treasures to the deployed man. "Romantic" or not, it is the same. You know someone is home loving and waiting for you to come home safe. One of the best gifts I ever got when deployed, was a lock of my sons hair from his first ever haircut. That and a lock of hair from my wife were always on my person and they were small enough they could go anywhere with me and I didn't have to leave them behind in my living quarters. They were actually something that I could take with me on missions and not have to worry about them getting messed up. Show your love and support and I hope your hubby comes home safe and sound. Just a word of advice though. Combat does funny things to a person. He may not want to talk about what he has seen or done, but just knowing you are there to listen if needed can make all the difference in the world.

    P.S. as soon as he starts to think about getting out of the Army, go to the local VA and get all paperwork started. Trust me it isnot an easy process, but it can be very helpfull at times. Even if he never even gets so much as a scratch, it could be years till problems show up and the sooner he gets into the system the easier it will be to deal with.

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  8. One thing that worked well for my buddy and his wife-they bought a nicely bound journal type book and took turns writing in it, mailing it back and forth to each other. They had a nice collection of thoughts at the end of a year. Of course you have mail delays/lost mail but it worked well for them.

  9. You guys are so awesome! Thanks!